Now we move on to the main part of the episode, to our main topic.
Going to visit — buy a giftIn Russia, there is a rule: you don't go to visit empty-handed. If you are invited to a birthday, a dinner, or just to visit — you need to buy something small.
It could be:
- A box of chocolates
- A cake
- A bottle of wine
- Flowers
The main thing is not to come empty-handed. This is considered impolite. Even if the hosts say: "Don't buy anything, just come" — you still have to buy something.
Here is an example: "I was invited to a friend's birthday party. I bought a bottle of good wine and a box of chocolates. Going empty-handed would have been impolite."
We don't smile so muchEuropeans, and many other peoples, often smile at strangers — on the street, in a store, on public transport. Russians don't do that. We don't smile for no reason.
This is our mentality. For us, a smile is not just politeness. It is a sign of genuine warmth. We smile at friends, family, when we are happy or when we laugh.
But we rarely smile at a stranger. And this doesn't mean we are evil or sad. It's just how we are wired. What does it take for us to start smiling at you? Just get to know us better, and that's it.
A man pays for a girlIn Russia, there is still a tradition: a man pays for a girl in a cafe, at the cinema, in a restaurant. This is not because the girl cannot pay for herself.
It is about care and respect. A man shows that he can provide for his companion, that she is safe. The modern Western approach of "a girl pays for herself" hasn't caught on here.
Of course, there are exceptions: if it's a business meeting or if the girl herself offers to pay. But in most cases, the man pays for everyone himself. And the girl expects this.
In Russia, it is customary to collect money at workWe often collect money. This could be:
- For a colleague's birthday — they buy a gift or simply collect an amount and give an envelope.
- For the birth of a child — colleagues chip in for a gift.
- We also collect money when a person is in a difficult situation, for example, the death of a loved one or a serious health problem.
This is not just a tradition — it's about support. We don't leave a person alone.
Example from my work: "A colleague had a baby. The boss said: 'Let's chip in for a gift.' We collected money and bought a good stroller."
Collecting money for teachersIn Russia, parents collect money for teachers for holidays:
- Teacher's Day — a professional holiday.
- September 1 — the start of the new school year.
- March 8 — International Women's Day.
- Graduation.
This is not a bribe, that is, it is legal, it does not violate the laws of the country. It is gratitude. Teachers in Russia receive a small salary, and parents of students want to say "thank you" for teaching their children, helping them, and caring for them.
Treats at school and kindergartenIn kindergartens and schools, there is a tradition: parents buy treats for the whole class or group for their child's birthday.
These could be:
- Pastries
- Gingerbread cookies
- Juices
- Fruit
- Candies
The child brings the treat to the class, and the teacher distributes it to the children. Everyone is happy, everyone congratulates them.
Example from life: "It was my son's birthday. My wife bought 25 pastries for the whole class. Our son is happy that he is congratulated in class, and all the children are also happy with the treats."
A bag of bagsEvery Russian has a bag of bags at home. A bag is packaging, usually made of thin transparent plastic (cellophane) or paper. You can put groceries, things, or trash in it. In simple words: it's a small sack in which we put our shopping at the store, wrap food, or throw away trash. You'll be surprised, but it's a fact! We never throw away cellophane bags from stores.
We fold them up, we have a special bag where other bags are kept. Small, large, for trash, for groceries — they are all stored.
Many foreigners laugh at this. But for us, it's normal. Why buy new bags when you can use old ones? This is how we take care of the planet.
ConclusionToday we learned:
- Why you don't go to visit empty-handed.
- Why Russians don't smile at strangers.
- Why a man pays for a girl.
- How it is customary to collect money at work and for teachers.
- Why everyone has a bag of bags at home.
Friends, let's repeat the new words: polite, impolite, mentality, graduation, bribe, treat, toast.